Therapy for Couples Who Want to Stay Together
How Did We Get So Disconnected?
You’re not fighting all the time. You’re not planning to break up. But something’s off annnd if you’re honest, it has been for a while. The spark’s gone. The banter is dead. And every interaction feels either flat, tense, or emotionally exhausting.
You still love each other. You still want it to work. But you’ve become ships passing in the night… with shared bills and some lingering sexual tension.
You might be:
Arguing over the same five things and never actually resolving them
Struggling to communicate without one of you shutting down or getting defensive
Feeling like teammates running a household, but not lovers sharing a life
Having less sex or having sex that feels more like obligation than connection
Fantasizing about feeling chosen, seen, and wanted again… but not knowing how to get there
This isn’t “just a rough patch.” It’s a warning light. And ignoring it won’t make it better.
What Couples Therapy Looks Like with Me
This is not about “teaching you how to talk better.” You’ve tried that. This is about figuring out why you both feel stuck, distant, or angry and how to stop recycling the same dynamic over and over.
Together, we’ll:
Identify the patterns that are killing your connection (without blame or shame)
Learn to hear each other again (like, actually hear and not just survive the fight)
Work through resentment, unmet needs, and emotional shutdowns
Rebuild intimacy- emotionally, physically, and maybe even playfully
Learn how to show up for each other without losing yourselves
I use a mix of evidence-based approaches (Gottman + EFT) and my own reality-based lens. You’ll get structure, accountability, annnd…
someone who’s not afraid to call out the stuff you’ve both been avoiding.
What Happens When You Get the Spark Back
You stop walking on eggshells. You stop wondering if this is just what long-term love is supposed to feel like; dull, transactional, obligatory.
Instead, you start rebuilding something real.
You remember what it felt like to laugh together, flirt again, trust each other’s intentions.
You actually want to reach for each other both emotionally and physically.
The big stuff? You handle it like a team.
The little stuff? Doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.
The relationship stops draining you and starts fueling you again.
You don’t have to choose between staying miserable or starting over.
There’s a third option: reconnecting on purpose.
Questions You’re Actually Thinking About
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It's totally normal for one partner to be hesitant. Sometimes a conversation helps or even just sitting in on a consult. If your partner is firm on not coming, individual therapy can still help spark change and clarity for you and your relationship.
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Not at all. Couples therapy works for all types: dating, engaged, living together, married, or 'it’s complicated.'
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Not here to referee or pick teams. My job is to highlight the patterns and cycles that keep you stuck, even if it gets a little uncomfortable. Both partners contribute to the dynamic; therapy is about shifting it.
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Most couples start seeing shifts after about six months of weekly sessions. Real, lasting change often takes closer to a year, but it depends on the couple. No magic wands, but consistent work pays off.
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Completely normal. It shows me real-time how you deal with conflict. Sometimes I’ll step in, sometimes I’ll let it play out. It always depends on what helps you both grow.
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Couples therapy is $225 for 45-min sessions, $350 for 90-minutes. Insurance does not cover couples therapy because of how the work is structured.
You’re Not Alone in This
No one teaches us how to “relationship.” If you need backup, that’s what therapy is for and it doesn’t have to be awkward.