Therapy for Couples Who Want to Stay Together but Can’t Keep Living Like This
How Did We Get So Disconnected?
You’re not fighting all the time. You’re not planning to break up. But something’s off annnd if you’re honest, it has been for a while. The spark’s gone. The banter is dead. And every interaction feels either flat, tense, or emotionally exhausting.
You still love each other. You still want it to work. But you’ve become ships passing in the night… with shared bills and some lingering sexual tension.
You might be:
Arguing over the same five things and never actually resolving them
Struggling to communicate without one of you shutting down or getting defensive
Feeling like teammates running a household, but not lovers sharing a life
Having less sex or having sex that feels more like obligation than connection
Fantasizing about feeling chosen, seen, and wanted again… but not knowing how to get there
This isn’t “just a rough patch.” It’s a warning light. And ignoring it won’t make it better.
What Couples Therapy Looks Like with Me
This is not about “teaching you how to talk better.” You’ve tried that. This is about figuring out why you both feel stuck, distant, or angry and how to stop recycling the same dynamic over and over.
Together, we’ll:
Identify the patterns that are killing your connection (without blame or shame)
Learn to hear each other again (like, actually hear and not just survive the fight)
Work through resentment, unmet needs, and emotional shutdowns
Rebuild intimacy- emotionally, physically, and maybe even playfully
Learn how to show up for each other without losing yourselves
I use a mix of evidence-based approaches (Gottman + EFT) and my own reality-based lens. You’ll get structure, accountability, annnd…
someone who’s not afraid to call out the stuff you’ve both been avoiding.
You stop walking on eggshells. You stop wondering if this is just what long-term love is supposed to feel like; dull, transactional, obligatory.
Instead, you start rebuilding something real.
You remember what it felt like to laugh together, flirt again, trust each other’s intentions.
You actually want to reach for each other both emotionally and physically.
What Happens When You Get the Spark Back
The big stuff? You handle it like a team.
The little stuff? Doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.
The relationship stops draining you and starts fueling you again.
You don’t have to choose between staying miserable or starting over.
There’s a third option: reconnecting on purpose.