When “Fine” Isn’t Fine: The Hidden Cost of Holding It All Together
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The “I’m Fine” Lie We All Learned to Tell
You’re the dependable one. The strong one. The friend everyone texts when they’re falling apart buuuttt who checks in on you?
“Fine” has become your default setting. It rolls off your tongue faster than you can take a breath. You’re holding it together so well you could teach a masterclass in composure. But lately, your “fine” is starting to feel a little… fragile.
The truth? Being fine isn’t peace. It’s performance.
How Burnout Hides in the Everyday
Burnout doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like:
Answering emails with tears in your eyes.
Saying “sure, no problem” when you want to scream.
Feeling guilty for being resentful.
Forgetting what rested even feels like.
You’ve been in survival mode for so long that your nervous system doesn’t trust calm anymore. Your body’s been whispering, “we’re not okay,” and you keep whispering back, “not now.”
Your Nervous System Isn’t Broken… It’s Overloaded
Here’s what’s actually happening: when you’ve spent years overfunctioning, your brain and body get stuck in go-mode. Adrenaline and cortisol become your baseline. You’re not failing — you’re just running on fumes.
Therapy for burnout isn’t about teaching you how to “do less.” It’s about helping your nervous system remember safety (not productivity) is what you’re wired for.
It’s Not Weakness to Need Rest
Rest isn’t a reward you earn by suffering; it’s a right.
You don’t need to burn everything down to feel better; you just need permission to stop performing and start feeling again.
You deserve peace that doesn’t require collapse first.
Ready to stop being “fine”?
Let’s get real about what’s underneath the burnout.